1. Ginger
    April 27, 2020 @ 9:16 am

    Beautiful words!
    Also best preschool picture ever! I’d blow that thing up and put it right by the front door. It says so very much about life and expectations. My son’s school pictures have entertained us for years whether they be individual or group. He doesn’t like smiling on cue or photographers or people in his space or nice clothes or clothes at all really or waiting. Our family favorite is the one with him wearing his noise cancelling headphones looking like someone is actively torturing him – it was too loud waiting in line so he had his teachers get his head phones (heaven forbid they just have him go first before he’s on sensory overload from the close together loud line of kids).
    We do have one set of amazing family and individual pictures taken after the last child was born though, he’s even wearing a button down shirt. Before we left for the studio I told him tearfully that if one of us dies the rest will want a picture to remember us as a whole family. Turns out, when motivated, the kid is down right photogenic.


  2. Diane
    April 27, 2020 @ 9:47 am

    You two are beautiful! You both love your sons dearly! I will look at things differently from now on!


  3. marybish3
    April 27, 2020 @ 11:18 am

    This blog is helpful not only to families who deal with autism but to all who hope to grow into the healthy persons that they are meant to be. Your practical advice on how to handle strong feelings without denying them is excellent. I practice a “welcoming Prayer” that helps me but I will also use your ideas. I welcome God into healing my exaggerated desires for power/control, affection/esteem and safety/ security. The healing takes as long as it needs depending on the strength of the feelings.
    That you for the photo, it certainly says a lot about how Jack felt and what you may have felt too. Sometimes pictures are stronger than a thousand words.Thank you for your blog. I admire you, Jack and your family so much.


  4. Gayle W Cole
    April 27, 2020 @ 11:26 am

    I always, literally ALWAYS look forward to and enjoy Carrie’s posts. This one really struck a chord in me. I wonder if God allowed Jack to be special knowing that Jack’s mother would change people for the better with her viewpoint…a viewpoint she only has because she also has Jack.


  5. Susie
    April 27, 2020 @ 11:35 am

    Thanks for this. I can relate to pretty much everything you said but you express it so wisely and kindly. Ashamedly, I am struggling with some expectations I had for my son and this is a huge test of my ego – in infinitesimal ways I couldn’t have imagined before he was born (I have a neurological child like yourself, so know the differences of a ‘normal’ childhood). I love my son so much but feel like I’ve been plunged into this lonely, confusing world I can’t figure out and your writing has helped me understand my child is my teacher and not the other way round, and that the struggle will make sense in the end…Your son sounds awesome and I love that photo.


  6. Jan Mcgonagle
    April 27, 2020 @ 11:50 pm

    Thank you. Again.


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