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  1. Leslie Peterson
    December 2, 2019 @ 6:08 pm

    I know all kids are different, but I wanted to let you know that I too have a son with autism. And he does drive now. He took it a little slower than his brother–got his permit at age 17 and ran through two rounds of permit before passing the written test. And it was agonizing riding along with him in the car when he was learning to drive. However, he is so rule oriented, that he probably follows the traffic laws better than any of the rest of us in the house. He finally passed the driving part at age 20–and got his license. And his friend, who also has autism, also got his license when he was close to 18. So it can happen.

    I found, that between the time I started contemplating guardianship just before my son turned 18–and 9-10 months later when I was ready to petition the court, that he had matured enough that I didn’t do it. I didn’t think they would grant it. He is not independent by any stretch, now at age 21, but he is taking steps, and the steps for him are momentous. We are working with him on skills need to live independently, which will take a while (and we may never get there). But he does work for a shipping company, is getting himself up and out of bed in the wee hours of the morning–and driving himself to and from his job. I did not think that would happen.

    So–Jack is likely different, but I wanted to let you know that there is hope for his path, that growth, while slower and rockier, does come. And that it may be worth getting the permit–and letting him try.

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  2. Vicky Outlaw
    December 2, 2019 @ 7:19 pm

    “Hey, Buddy, is it all right if I sit with you ? Or would you rather be alone? So simple so perfect.

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  3. barbsright
    December 4, 2019 @ 4:59 pm

    I have “Asperger’s-autism”. And after reading your blog for sometime now, I have to say that Jack seems to be doing fine. I find the world-today, completely exasperating. People seem not to want to follow rules. They do not take ownership of there actions. The problem for me, and Jack—is that we expect the world to run by simple, understandable rules. I have been thru ‘psychotherapy’, and the thing that changed my life was when my psychotherapist said, “It is your parents fault”. He meant that they had a ‘dysfunctional relationship’. But actually the problem was they raised me to believe people were honest, and competent. Nowadays, a lot of them are not. President Trump is neither of those things. So for Jack, and his siblings—you must teach them that reality. Autism makes one more ‘sensitive to stimuli, etc’, just like a the proverbial ‘canary in the coal mine’. My sister, who is the social/intellectual opposite of ‘autistic’—initially does not heed my warnings, but eventually she sees that I am correct in my analysis. I am way more sensitive to things deteriorating than she is. This is because I do not respond to emotions. It is one of the ‘gifts’ of autism. I just see things as a ‘business deal’. If someone does not honor their agreement, I cannot be ‘manipulated’ to give them a second-chance. It is not such a bad-way to live. :-)!

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