1. Sue Russo
    October 14, 2019 @ 9:58 am

    I just had the same experience this summer. The EXACT same experience! My daughter on the spectrum is also 15. I planned everything out before I even said a word to her (that’s just how I roll). Because of her anxiety, I did downplay the extent of it. Does she NEED to know everything? I decided no. It won’t help, and it would definitely get her more wound up. I just told my daughter that my tummy hurt, and the doctor was going to make it all better Here are some things that helped me through the process; I hope they can help you as well. Get on a website called Hystersisters. It will help to answer questions, give advice, and help you not feel so alone. They have great videos, articles and a support group thread. Do prep work before the surgery. Get meals made, clean the house ( you can’t do housework afterwards. This is a good thing and a bad thing), look ahead in the calendar to prepare. You are in bed for several days, so prepare for that as well (lots of good books). I let my daughter come in and visit me in the bed to see that I was still “Mom”. She would bring in her iPad, and hang on the bed with me. I also took all the help offered by others, even though that’s a hard thing for me. Just take it because you will need it. Last tip: grab as many pairs of the hospital underwear as you can!!! They will be a godsend! Trust me on that one. Good luck to you, Carrie! It’s tough, but great to be on the other side of it when it’s over. You can email me if you have any (ANY!) questions or concerns. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and in my heart!!!


  2. Merceda
    October 14, 2019 @ 10:35 am

    So ducks in rows, and ducks who are not in rows, do not have thumbs. My daughter is so literal, it’s equal parts funny and maddening.

    Sue has great advice on ‘my tummy hurts, and the doctor was going to make it all better’. Funny story. A few years back, I was having different surgery that would have me hospitalized for a couple days. I used the ‘tummy hurts and doctor is going to help me feel better. Husband brought me to the hospital with daughter. Daughter asked if doctor if doctor was going to ‘fix’ mommy. Doctor laughed and said ‘no, that’s a different doctor, but I am going to help mommy feel better.’ LOL

    Good luck on your procedure, and a speedy recuperation. Sending positive thoughts and mojo your way, Carrie.


  3. Cameron
    October 15, 2019 @ 10:59 pm

    I will tell them you love them. But the already know.
    Good luck – you will be here to see it all. ❤️❤️❤️


  4. cbspira
    October 15, 2019 @ 11:27 pm

    It’s the hardest when Mom has to take care of herself. Somehow there’s room in the schedule for everyone else…

    Are there any respite programs that can send someone to keep Jack company either at home or to take him on an outing while you recover?

    May you have an uneventful surgery and smooth recovery – physically and emotionally.


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