1. Melody
    September 14, 2015 @ 1:11 pm

    Check out the Launch Program through Life Styles at the University of Arkansas. http://www.lifestylesinc.org/site/?page_id=131 There are good options out there, not perfect, but enough to where college can become a reality. My brother just started the program last month.


  2. fnvandok
    September 14, 2015 @ 1:15 pm

    Carrie, I’m in tears again. Beautifully written. Thank you.


  3. smmwellington
    September 14, 2015 @ 1:31 pm

    Tis goot one. Stacey From: Carrie Cariello To: smmwellington@yahoo.com Sent: Monday, September 14, 2015 12:19 PM Subject: [New post] Dear Teachers: Where Does The Road to College Start? #yiv5433432117 a:hover {color:red;}#yiv5433432117 a {text-decoration:none;color:#0088cc;}#yiv5433432117 a.yiv5433432117primaryactionlink:link, #yiv5433432117 a.yiv5433432117primaryactionlink:visited {background-color:#2585B2;color:#fff;}#yiv5433432117 a.yiv5433432117primaryactionlink:hover, #yiv5433432117 a.yiv5433432117primaryactionlink:active {background-color:#11729E;color:#fff;}#yiv5433432117 WordPress.com | Carrie Cariello posted: “Dear Teachers,Now that we have two full weeks of school under our belts, I thought I might crack the venetian blinds to our life with five kids, and give you a little peek inside of my philosophy about school.I do not pack snacks. We have a genero” | |


  4. Pam Zercher
    September 14, 2015 @ 2:49 pm



  5. Helen Glasier
    September 14, 2015 @ 3:35 pm

    Carrie, As a teacher and parent myself, I applaud you! I wish more parents took this approach to education. Thanks for sharing glimpses into your life each week!


  6. Bunny
    September 14, 2015 @ 6:19 pm

    You are such an amazing Mom, fostering their independence like a good Momma should. Many could take a lesson.


  7. Susie vanderKooij
    September 14, 2015 @ 9:45 pm

    Another inspiring reading of which I just can’t thank you enough…..you always seem to capture these entries on days I have experienced a horrifically challenging day, when I am so down on myself for yelling at Adrian, telling him he’s annoying….his challenges are ever changing…..I need to read this, at this very moment….thank you


  8. Karen Maitland
    September 15, 2015 @ 12:27 am

    Carrie, you have “aced” good parenting – and then some!!! And as for Jack, I truly believe that Jack will be able to do whatever he decides to do!! I just feel it in my bones that he has his moccasins on the right path. His journey may be different, but he already has a direction – and in my experience, that’s more than half the battle won already.


  9. oshrivastava
    September 15, 2015 @ 3:26 am

    Reblogged this on oshriradhekrishnabole.


  10. Janet
    September 15, 2015 @ 11:11 am

    My grandson is a junior in high school and all ready had to drop a class in accounting. They will have him work in the Library instead He tried very hard to follow in the Accounting class but could not progress and it is only Sept. My daughter like yourself spends so much time trying to figure out just what he is going to do after High School. He also wants to go to college. He likes to draw but only what he likes which is cartoon characters. Where to start to search is her question? Thank you once again for all your input, it helps.


  11. Erin O'Neill
    September 15, 2015 @ 3:05 pm

    Fantastic! You are such a wonderful, caring, and loving family! Your parenting skills are dynamic! Thank you for sharing!! ps. I LOVE having Henry in my class!


  12. Deb
    September 16, 2015 @ 7:41 am

    I like your attitude towards school and life in general. I feel the same way but always felt like a neglectful parent. And that photo of Jack, he twinkles. You can see his soul shining.


  13. soupandsanity
    September 19, 2015 @ 10:26 am

    I can see why this post was shared in the school newsletter and why it meant so much to you to see it there! Making oneself understood within the communities where we have regular face to face contact, is sometimes more difficult than writing for a wider audience, but is much more satisfying. That is what gives rise to the proverb that a “prophet is without honor in his own country”.

    Congratulations on a clear, concise statement of your very sane values and principles. I know that even when so clearly articulated, one can quickly feel besieged by multiple and conflicting expectations and demands.

    (Kudos to the Principal who shared it, too! What a great way to prompt discussion of wider educational goals.)


    • Nancy A.
      September 19, 2015 @ 7:12 pm

      I read all of your posts. You are an amazing writer. As a retired teacher, I totally understand today’s post. Bravo for always speaking your truth no matter what. I agree that ‘life’ is more important than any accolade. You are so right!
      P.S. It’s Matt’s Aunt that he lived with


  14. Sharon
    September 29, 2015 @ 8:15 am

    Hi Carrie. I love your posts and I wish I had known yoy when my kids were smaller and having me pack their snack and bring their forgotten homework to school and driving them the days they missed the bus. I love how you already know that accelerated math and varsity letters are not what is important. My kids would have appreciated me knowing that but it took me until the first one graduated to get it. Anyway I wanted to tell you UNH has a program for our guys to be able to attend college. I’m not sure how it works as I haven’t looked into it yet even though I probably should get on it. There is hope for our boys to get to college on their own terms as I am sure you are aware. Thank you for your weekly posts and for keeping it real.



  15. Wanda Casson
    September 30, 2015 @ 12:30 pm

    Carrie, I have an autistic son, John. He is now in college. Persevere and It will happen. My son may take a little bit longer to finish college, but I accept it. It is not the length of time but the ambition that drives him. He is majoring in Spanish and is taking other languages. He started out thinking that he wanted to do architecture, but changed his mind and changed majors. He is now in his Sophomore/Junior year in College. I am so proud of him. He has Spanish under his belt. (He took the equivalent of 4 years of college Spanish) Now he is working on French. He has almost 2 years of that. He has some problems in some of the other classes, which is taking him longer to do, but he is doing it. He is also actively seeking employment to supplement his college and home expenses. He and his older sister live in an apartment. He has gotten out on his own and is doing great. He came to me the other day and said that he may have to extend his college out and asked if that was okay. I told him that it was. He wanted to graduate sooner, but if that does not happen, well it does not happen. That is how I see it. When my kids were younger, I did like you did. I let them do their stuff by themselves. Let them succeed or fail. And when they were in the younger classes they struggled. In high school and college, they are succeeding. My son actually graduated from high school with a technical honor. And for an autistic child, that is an accomplishment! He turns 20 today. (Sept. 30th is his birthday.) And I am so proud of what he has accomplished. What he has done. So if my son can do it, yours can too! Don’t let anyone discourage him. He will make it! I have an autistic son that has proven it! Oh, and did I mention that he is also an Eagle Scout with all 3 palms? Yes, he did that too! He wanted to do that and he accomplished it. So I know without a shadow of a doubt that your son Jack will make it. And if you need to show him that others have done it, just read this. Oh, and my son’s favorite restaurant was Taco Bell. And there is one right outside of his campus. To top it off, he does not even go there for lunch because he says that he would rather take his lunch to college. He also takes the bus and he drives. But he rather take the bus to college. It is the regular bus that he takes. He gets his quarters out to ride the bus. He said that the bus going to college is better than the yellow buses that go to the middle or high school. They have better seats. So you can tell your son that also. My son would want to tell him that. Encouragement is the way to go. Give hugs when they think they have failed and tell them to go try it again. (My son failed a few classes, but has retaken them and gotten A’s and B’s in them.) It is a great thing that Jack wants to go to college. I believe that he will if he just keeps on keeping on. My son is in college and if you need more encouragement, I would be glad to talk to you about it. Coming from a Autistic College Student Eagle Scout mom. And if I repeated myself, I am sorry. I just wanted to let you know that I am proud of my son. And his accomplishments and wanted to share my experience with you. Good luck to your children, all of them. Oh, and my daughter is in college as well. She is going to start med school next year. I cannot believe it. She isn’t autistic, but she loves her brother.


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