1. Arlene Bergwall
    June 15, 2015 @ 3:33 pm

    Don’t give up!! You two are too special and have a great family. Hal and I didn’t always agree but we ended up having a great live together. Fondly, Arlene

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  2. Kimybeee
    June 15, 2015 @ 11:34 pm

    I don’t do puke either.

    What is his other 5%?

    My husband and I have a saying that we have used since our kids hit the teen years. It is me and him against the world, and that world includes our kids. Our kids are freakishly close and if you are going to say something to one, you are gonna fight with both.

    My husband doesn’t want any controversy and wants everybody to get along. If I am treated nasty by our kids (now 21 & 19), then I am gonna give it back as hard as I get it. We had a long period with our son being a butt head and it caused a strain between us. We came out the other side still together against the world!

    Our first home also had rats, it bonds you as a couple to defeat the vermin.

    I am a la ti da snapper too!

    I have no idea what it is like to live with a child like jack, but I know the divorce stats are high. I have no idea what it is like to live in a house with five kids and have to play zone coverage instead of man (or parents) coverage. I hope your family beats the odds!!


  3. NickyB.
    June 16, 2015 @ 12:10 am

    Well said. A lot of what you said TOTALLY reminds me of my marriage!


  4. oshrivastava
    June 16, 2015 @ 2:59 am

    Reblogged this on oshriradhekrishnabole.


  5. autismmommytherapist
    June 16, 2015 @ 9:29 am

    I could relate to so much of this loved it!


  6. Karl and Cherri
    June 16, 2015 @ 3:15 pm

    What you are not seeing is that kids need both viewpoints to be balanced adults.. Think back at your parents growing up. One of them would be easy to get away with things, one there would be hell to pay if they knew.
    Very few people agree on parenting styles and your right, kids are the source of most fights. LMAO

    I don’t want to say that all marriages in the “Spectrum” are the same but the people who care about each other find a way to make it work. Not without battles, but one way or another things work out. I have read this blog since last year and the one thing that comes across very clear is that you are great parents that are doing a hell of a job raising your kids. Through all the years you will make mistakes, we all do but the end result is all that matters.

    We have been in your shoes,not with 5 but with 2. Hang in there and you will see you are doing a great job.

    Don’t sweat the small stuff.


  7. Heather Smith
    June 20, 2015 @ 3:39 pm

    I’m not sure the NSA knows as much about my relationship with my husband as you do… Please keep sharing your insights — it’s cheaper than us going to a marriage counselor.


  8. SleepyMom
    June 21, 2015 @ 9:32 am

    So glad you wrote this. I identify with it so so much! No one is brave enough to say it’ll be the kids’ faults when we get a divorce but let’s be serious without them we’d have a 1000 more hours a day to do relationship building things; endless love, patience, and understanding to heap upon our spouse; and wouldn’t be down to our last thimble full of sanity by the time we saw each other in the evening. It’s a wonder any of us survive marriage + kids. Trudging along with you to the light at the end of the tunnel.


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