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  1. Michelle
    May 2, 2016 @ 11:04 am

    I think you’re so very brave for sharing your autism story through writing. I love, love reading all of your posts and hearing your perspective on being the mother. So simple yet extraordinary, really! Thanks for sharing.

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  2. marty
    May 2, 2016 @ 11:16 am

    PTL! You, the mother, are great!

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  3. Jacquie
    May 2, 2016 @ 11:39 am

    Throughout my very long teaching career I have watched hundreds of well-meaning, dedicated parents go through the heart-wrenching decision of whether or not to try “drugs” – usually for ADHD. Nobody makes that decision easily and without a lot of soul searching. But…sometimes there are “end of the rope” situations that leave us no other option. I believe that might be the case for you and Joe. I know you aren’t looking for an “atta-girl” affirmation, but I’m going to give it anyway. Sometimes we simply have to take the road less traveled (and eat a little crow) in order to save our child.

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    May 2, 2016 @ 11:42 am

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  5. bethanyk
    May 2, 2016 @ 11:43 am

    Really awesome blog!!!

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  6. GP
    May 2, 2016 @ 11:43 am

    Ok, I consider myself a tough cookie, but this one opened the flood gates. Nobody should judge you negatively for giving your child medications. We all need the proper amount of serotonin. It helps us regulate emotions, helps us sleep (melatonin is a metabolite of serotonin), and it is a neurotrophic factor that allows the brain to develop proper synapses (even at 12; plasticity is a marvelous thing). If certain symptoms indicate a lack of optimal serotonin, we have to at least try to optimize serotonin with medication and see how well it works for a particular child since we cannot check a level (yet). If a child has diabetes and needs insulin, we do not deny the child insulin. Anybody who would judge you negatively for allowing your child to get the medicine he needs, simply would seem ignorant and cruel. Those parents would be the ones who take credit for their child’s neurotypical neurology and who think that is their parenting skills that allow the child to do well. Such folks need to be ignored. No need to waste positive energy and time on them. Starting a medication is not something that can never be stopped or tweaked anyway. One day at time! -Yes, you are his mother and you deserve to “stand tall” because you are allowing your son a chance to feel good about every day life and above all, a chance to feel good about himself and to value himself. That, afterall, is such a big and wonderful part of being a mother!

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  7. Amanda
    May 2, 2016 @ 11:49 am

    Oh my goodness. TEARS. What a beautiful piece, captures every bit of the responsibility, joy and fear that we manage everyday. The decision to medicate is a HUGE one that we just went through ourselves. I swore I’d never do it, but one little blue pill has taken the edge off our sweet boy. We just have no clue the level of anxiety they endure! Blessings to you.

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  8. David Marino
    May 2, 2016 @ 12:36 pm

    Medication has been our only calm in the storm. Anxiety is central to how our sons autism affects his ability to function. Calm that anxiety with the right prescription and level, and his life is changed and our families as well. Reader, make an appointment with a child psychiatrist who is an expert in this area as soon as you can. Do not waste your time talking to your pediatrician.

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  9. Molly
    May 2, 2016 @ 1:27 pm

    Carrie,

    Thank you for sharing your journey with us. This makes me feel so much better about decisions we have made for two of our boys who are on the spectrum. I love your writing style and I am a huge fan of Jack:-).

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  10. mummypupper
    May 2, 2016 @ 1:41 pm

    As someone who has suffered from anxiety and panic attacks,let me reassure you that as a rational adult I was unable to cope with it….so I cannot imagine how scary it must be for a child.In my humble opinion,you have one hundred per cent totally and utterly made the correct decision.I have sensed your growing pain and worry over the last while and am so glad that you are beginning to see signs of the old Jack coming back.Your decision has made your sons life easier….that is all we can do.x

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  11. Carol Bruce
    May 2, 2016 @ 10:53 pm

    I have seen medication work wonders for some children. You will know if it is having a positive or negative effect. It’s worth giving it a try, for when it is the right stuff, it can make a big difference. I hope it works well for Jack and the family. Happy Mothers Day!

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  12. rocketbotmom
    May 3, 2016 @ 12:07 am

    I’m so glad to see the new med is helping a tiny little bit. I pray you will start to see even more changes and glimpses into the “old” Jack.
    Your blogs are always so insightful, truthful, and “right on.”

    Praying for your whole family as you travel through these rough times.

    God Bless.

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  13. Rachel
    May 3, 2016 @ 12:50 am

    Carrie I am so glad to hear that you have found something that is working for Jack. Another beautifully written piece. You are an amazing mother!

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  14. Michelle B.
    May 3, 2016 @ 1:08 pm

    Thank you for taking the time to share your experiences. I look forward to reading your blog every Monday. I admire your courage your ability to be very honest and real.

    Happy Mother’s Day!

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  15. Ellen Walker
    May 5, 2016 @ 7:30 pm

    You are a fantastic mother, as well as an amazing author. Your post brought back long forgotten memories of how I felt when faced with this decision. But medication and therapy have saved my son from a life filled with gripping anxiety and self-doubt. He is a grown man now but somewhere deep inside he is my little boy struggling to conform to society’s expectations. We all do the best we can – these guys don’t come with an instruction manual! I hope you have a very happy Mother’s Day – you certainly deserve to! Hang in there and keep writing.

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  16. Janet Anderson (Grandmother)
    May 7, 2016 @ 3:29 pm

    Reading your post this past week brings me back to when my grandson was four. He is now seventeen and his mother is still working on his anxiety issues, At four when the rest of the family did not see the problem, My daughters insides told her something was wrong. A true Mother’s instinct. I understand they can now test how the different medicines being given effect individual children. By moving slowly the study shows the plus and minus of certain meds and how they affect the serotonin levels in the brain. It is a start and hopefully will help with treating our children. In the meantime we have to try giving them some hope and if medicine is the answer so be it. You are a wonderful mother and a constant inspiration for all mothers with children on the spectrum. Happy Mothers Day to each and everyone of you. They are all God’s perfect children and I am blessed to be part of my grandsons life and will continue to search, pray and have hope there will come an answer. Thank-you again for all your input.

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