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  1. mummypupper
    August 11, 2014 @ 5:17 pm

    O Carrie…..I needed to read this now.My daughter is nine….and she is so anxious,she worries about everything.I suffer from panic disorder,which decided to strike me suddenly and out of the blue two years ago,for no reason that I can see….panic and anxiety….yay me!!I have tried to hide this from my children,I think that I have succeeded but then my daughters anxiety manifests and I wonder how successful I have been.Because of my personal struggle one would think that I would be extra sensitive to my little ones plight….ah,no….I’m not.Sometimes I have zero patience,nil,none……Her latest thing is that she is afraid that she will choke and she is refusing to eat certain foods….instead of reassuring her at dinner tonight I screamed that she couldn’t leave the table until everything was eaten…what a prize mum I am.Luckily my lovely husband was here to diffuse the situation…and in my defence I am usually able to be more compassionate towards her but tonight I was tired and I have a headache and you are so right….their groundless anxiety is annoying,it feels like they don’t trust us to care for them and boy does that hurt.And of course I run ahead and imagine all sorts of catastrophies….what will happen if she won’t eat anything…..what will the next neurosis be?In my little girls case,her anxiety stems from her dyslexia but God……I wish it would get lost!!

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  2. Cate Pane: The Clear Parent
    August 12, 2014 @ 7:00 pm

    Your writing always makes me laugh AND cry! Anxiety is treatable with the help of a good child psychologist. I think you may be too hard on yourself. You are an amazing mother! I have a friend who is a child clinical psychologist. She says that anxiety is so painful because the people who experience panic attacks actually believe they are going to die. 🙁 Sending good thoughts your way!

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  3. bytherecipe
    August 14, 2014 @ 1:19 pm

    Love this one! My son is also high anxiety. Worries about everything. He is now almost 11 and it is much better than it used to be. When he was 5, 6, 7, 8, I used to have delay telling him things otherwise I’d have to deal with the never ending questions. If I told him that he had a dentist appointment at the end of the week, the days leading up to it would be filled with: “do I have a cavity will I have to get a filling how long will it take will it hurt will you be there will i miss school will it hurt do i have a cavity what if I have to go back why do I always have to go back will you hold my hand” I have a feeling you get the point.
    Long story short, I got him a book called “What to do when you worry too much”. Written for kids. It has helped. And as much as it drives me crazy (the questions), I think that my patience with him has instilled some confidence to deal with the unknown and unexpected.
    Hang tight. Be patient. And most of all, remind yourself that you can only do your best. We can only give what we have to give. And yes sometimes it’s not enough, but that is what helps our children grow and begin to take care of themselves.

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  4. mariekeates
    August 16, 2014 @ 2:05 am

    When someone is afraid but does a scary thing anyway it takes great courage. Jack is a hero

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