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  1. Missy
    October 15, 2013 @ 5:11 pm

    I have no words for this one. It is poignant. It hurts my heart – and it makes beautiful sense.

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  2. Noell Reed Jr.
    October 17, 2013 @ 8:41 pm

    That was very beautiful M’am. Thank you for that.

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  3. Cissy
    October 18, 2013 @ 3:24 pm

    my son works with Autism children and adults, he loves the way his friends look at the world…………

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  4. Lana
    October 21, 2013 @ 11:44 am

    You are definitely right about that: you are ALL better for Jack’s autism. (And how the heck did you choke down your mouthful of food after hearing Joey give that answer to Jack? I’d have been a puddle on the floor. Your heart must have swelled to 3 times its size with pride. Good job, mom and dad!!)

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  5. Melissa D.
    October 28, 2013 @ 6:12 pm

    This is so well put. Thank you for saying what we are all thinking 🙂 And Mine is 15, the sex talk is nothing compared to the Autism talk, a piece of cake! Good luck!

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  6. LloydVW
    October 28, 2013 @ 10:38 pm

    At some moments in the week maybe I can wish all those things you prayed about were true, but there are other times, most of the time when I can only wish the autism away. Double locks on the doors, how will we provide for him after we are dead… I hate the prison autism has built around him, the distance it puts between him and those that love him, I want my wife to have a neurotypical son.

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  7. Carolyn
    October 29, 2013 @ 8:33 am

    OMG! I that brought tears to my eyes, you write awesome, and the discription is overwhelming.

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  8. Ann Kilter
    November 24, 2013 @ 9:25 pm

    We had the “autism talk” with my son when he was in 5th grade (11?). Although he knew something was going on (he was pulled out of regular classes for speech therapy, occupational therapy, social work, etc.), he didn’t know the name or diagnosis. We told my older daughter at the same time (12), but she told us it wasn’t news to her, since she was in the autism program in our region. She just knew other students in the program had it worse. She was allowed to go to regular math class. I think the “sex talk” is really just the introduction to a continuing series of talks on the subject – a prologue. Some of the most disconcerting calls we received were from one of Will’s teachers, and another from his youth pastor regarding Will’s crush on girls. We had to have the talk about not staring, not monopolizing the girl’s attention, respecting boundaries. All of those pragmatic behavioral discussions that must be plain spoken, gently, but firmly. Will is 25 now. He would like a girlfriend, a wife, a family. Maybe that will happen for him. He has been helped by his sisters as well in thinking about the way to treat women. A lot to think about as your boy grows up.

    Ann.

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    • Ann Kilter
      November 24, 2013 @ 9:28 pm

      Our talk had to consider not just the girl’s feelings, but Will’s feelings as well. My husband had these talks with Will, from a man’s perspective.

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  9. DCTdesigns
    November 26, 2013 @ 6:30 pm

    Wow!just wow. This is spectacularly written.

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  11. Jan
    June 9, 2014 @ 2:33 pm

    Ahhh….I’m not alone. Thank you

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